Work together and put the kids first. Thats the advice for the regions separated families this summer from family lawyer Judith Middleton of Darlington law firm Latimer Hinks, who says that thousands of childrens summer holidays are ruined each year by warring parents. Judith is regional spokesperson for family law group Resolution, which promotes a constructive and non-confrontational approach to separation and divorce, and is the organisation behind the advice. Judith said: For some people, the idea of two summer holidays might seem like a dream come true, but the reality for the regions separated families is often very different. Judith says that putting the children first is the key to happy summer holidays. Family holidays - whichever parent they are spent with - should be something to look forward to, but for children caught in the crossfire between separated parents who cant agree on who takes the kids where, summer fun can quickly turn into summer misery. Resolution has the following advice to help separated couples make summer holidays a success: Make your holiday plans together to avoid clashes, arguments and upset later. You may no longer live together but you are both still parents and should think about your childrens needs first. Talk about arrangements together, with a view to sharing both the pleasure and the responsibility. Dont ask your children to choose between you. This risks putting the responsibility on them when the adults should make these difficult decisions. Do allow children to express opinions about how they want to spend their holidays and listen to their views without putting pressure on them. When youve made the decision, explain it to them so they know whats going to happen. Do make sure your children also have an opportunity to spend time with their friends over the holidays. Dont make it a who can book the best holiday competition between you and your ex. The likelihood is that what your children will want most of all is an opportunity to spend some time with each parent. For more information or to find a local Resolution member in your area, visit www.resolution.org.uk.